(21) What things do Chinese people find strange about the West? - Quora
She commented that one of the reasons the separation was a good thing was that the woman in the movie wasn't getting any younger, and it would be better for her to leave an unproductive relationship before she became unmarriageable.
Fri Jul 8 14:03:19 2016 - permalink -
I think there were two main things that I got from this conversation: that conservative Chinese expect women to sacrifice a lot more for their relationships, and that even more modern-thinking people are less idealistic about romance than their Western peers.
I seldom see Asian people go clubbing on a regular basis on the other hand.
Whether it's at the club or on tinder, westerners like to hook up and never see each other again. It's almost like a sport
But in China, people regard weed as bad as any kind of hard drugs. My impression is that if you have never tried weed people will be surprised. But in China it is just the opposite.
She told me that “People are late for business meetings all the time. I mean at least we are there so why would they not be satisfied?”
“No. My brother came to see me in Finland and we think we should do something together. So school can wait.” Maybe these are not the general case, but it reflects a bigger picture
In China, it’s the opposite. Work takes more space than actual enjoyment.
But this would never happen in a strict and serious governmental office in China. AND! People can have their meal for hours!!!
Why are these countries so organized and their people so civilized? Most people don't jay walk even there's no car passing by; driver waits till pedestrians pass when there's no traffic light. Lawn is clean, everybody takes their garbage away. Etc But what makes 90% people of a country mind manners? This is strange to me.
but I like to think that in the US and Europe, in public circles at least, most of us would describe an ideal union as existing between 2 (or more, depending on how liberal you are) fairly independent people who are mutually attracted to each other.
I was really surprised the day that one of my best friends from college, a native Chinese who'd spent a significant amount of time in the US, told me she was looking more for stability than romance in a marriage.
I thought she was setting her expectations way too low, and maybe that's because of my own impractical view of relationships. Basically, I was and continue to be surprised by how many people in China seem to expect women to set relationships (leading to marriages) as an important life goal to be pursued seriously, while also not really placing a high priority on their own happiness within said marriages. I expect on the other side, Chinese people are surprised by how selfish Western women are, and maybe even foolish in prioritizing individual happiness over economic stability.